Why are we having so much conflict in our relationship?

Sharing a life with someone involves resolving many differences. These range from small things such as who cooks dinner to big ones such as finances, libido, or which country to live in. What makes a relationship work well is not related to the differences themselves but rather the process we use to resolve them. The method that does work is based on being able to clearly communicate our thoughts and feelings to our partner and be able to hear theirs - sending clear signals and receiving our partner's signals. When this happens, we find a way to resolve the differences in a calm collaborative and caring way. If the two partners have not found the way to do this, then their attempts to resolve these differences will create conflict and disconnection.